DBing European Style, part 2

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I'm hurting a bit today, not because of feelings for W -- I'd say I'm very well detached now and I feel confident about the future -- but more about the breakup of our family. I love these kids so much it hurts and I hate having to do this to them.

I'm sorry to hear this, and I feel the same myself. The day we have to tell the kids is going to be the hardest part of this. I have decided though that there will be no blame, no 'your mother has decided ...', to the kids its got to appear like we are both happy in life and what is happening, hopefully this will make them accept it as normal life, rather than a major event for them.

Do you think its just talk from W? My W accused me of not sorting D papers a few weeks ago and not doing anything, to my knowledge she has still not done anything herself. I often wonder if its not something they want to do themselves and by us taking the first step makes it easier for them?

As for time. My W has said the same. I said that time is flying by, she claims every minute is slow and painful.

Keep calm and she will see you as the strong one. That's going to be a whole lot more attractive than somebody that throws blame and tears about in front of the kids.