Being patient.

[Mtnman]

Hi rH! Weekend went well. We all went to the S9 baseball game Saturday morning and then had lunch at home. W had a tea with her mother that afternoon and went out with girlfriends that evening. The boys and I loaded up and went dirt bike riding until dark.

Sunday W came up early to get ready for church. The boys bought W a laptop for Mother's Day. Ok, I did but you know how that goes. After church I got takeout for her and her mother, took pics, etc. W then ended up napping the rest of the day to recover from the night before. I sat outside in the sun and napped too. Later that evening she showed me pics from the night before. Friend looked crazy and I told her so. W agreed and said she was crazy and it wasn't as much fun as she hoped. It was all I could do not to tell her that's where she's headed, but I was good.

Today she left work early and napped all afternoon again. She isn't dealing with all the pollen real well.

So, it was a good, busy weekend. Several comments about future "we" stuff, wore the non-wedding ring on her wedding finger all weekend, and spent lots of time here.

A mutual friend approached me at church and asked if we were back together. I said no, still working in it. I didn't ask why she thought that, but I'm curious now. Probably because we're together at church and get along well.

The preacher called me to come down to the church today to talk. He asked the same. It's like everyone assumes we're good because of how we're acting. I wish it were so, but just being patient still.

I'm not sure if I need to do anything more or different. We are "normal" except for the physical part. Unfortunately, the physical part is what makes a marriage more than a friendship. It's truly all that's lacking. It still has me at times thinking she's going to say ok I'm going to start sleeping at home so make room. It's too normal at times.

I'd love to have thoughts on what I can do to make W attracted to me, or is it a process that the mlcer goes through where it comes naturally. I don't want y'all to think I sit around worrying about it, but I just don't understand how they change their feelings toward us.