No longer treading water, must either sink or swim

[Grizz]

Waiting, Hot, Fartiltre, AS, Papa and Spartan, thank you all for taking time to read my long post and respond. I have not given it to her yet. I have appiled the 48 hour rule. But, still not sure what I am going to do. I just feel like I need to tell her some things that I have never said, whether it helps or not. If I do give it to her however, I will definitely rewrite some of it based on what you guys have said.

AS, I have not read Dobsons book. I have learned a great deal reading your post and thank you for that. I will definitely strike the sentence about "being my life". That was written when I was full of emotion with tears flowing. I agree it is a bad idea.

I like the example you provided on the apology about being jealous and controlling. I will change my wording to be closer to yours.

My paragraph stating how I was scared and how I shut down was not me trying to rationalize my behavior. It was me trying to restate what she thinks of me and trying to tell her that I understand what she was saying about me. Does it not seem like that?

Thanks again everyone.