Is this MLC or WAS? Don't know what to do...

[BrightFuture]

Linda, thank you for stopping by. I really appreciate your thoughts. This is why we are here on this board, to help each other to look at the situation from a different angle and share our experiences.

My H is supposed to come by tonight to leave his car at the house. He will be flying to his work place tomorrow. I’m not sure if he changed his mind about leaving the car here. Will see.
I had 2 sessions with the DB coach. The first one was mostly going over the history and getting the details, so we didn’t get to discuss the goals and further steps too much. The second session was kind of awkward, because I had the state of mind that my M could not be saved and I was just looking for some advice to help me through this. So, for my third session I will need to clear my mind and see if I still want to fight for my M.
The DB coach will work with you to help you to save your M, and they will not give up. I would definitely recommend the DB coach for you, if you can afford it. I don’t have a MC, but I’ve heard on this board a lot about how traditional M counselors actually harm your chances to save your M.

I don’t know how much my H justified this affair. In his mind he has moved on, so I think he doesn’t think that this is an affair, but a new relationship. At the same time, he is not completely financially independent of me. And, we are still legally married. I’m not sure if knows how much I know about this affair. Our female friend (this girl’s cousin) talked to him about it, and made it clear that it didn’t sit well with her and she absolutely didn’t approve this relationship. I think because of her involvement her cousin stopped communicating with my H, but I don’t know for sure. I also don’t know if our friend told my H that I knew some details.

I completely understand your emotions and that you cannot get away from the thoughts about this OW. She is not worth it. She a desperate woman with no self-respect.

We have a business together, but I cannot leave this business until we officially agree on the terms for all other assets. What I want to do is to open my own company and stop putting money into our joint business. So, it will be just him, and he will have to live on that. If he doesn’t make enough money, he will not be able to pay himself a salary and hence will not have money to pay for the condo, which he claims as his.