MLC by MIL death/daughter car accident/new job

[Live4myDay]

We go for months without interacting. Then it seems something triggers it either on my end or his such as Happy Birthday or Happy Mothers Day. Last interaction was fine Happy Easter... no problems. I was even trying to be positive and told him we (our D and I) made it safely home after driving 10 hours. Told him to enjoy the weekend with our S who went out of town to visit his sister with him. He didn't respond which is fine I didn't expect him to.

So why now does he feel the need to tear me down? Guilt because he's leaving for 2 weeks in Europe with OW? I don't know.

I feel like I have so much hope. I'll wait this out. Im ok where Im at. Im not angry at him or bitter. Just know its a phase he's going through. He doesn't realize what he's doing or done. But then after this I realize he knows exactly what he's doing...he wanted out WAS and doesn't want to look back.

I just don't know now what and how to handle things when he visits. Since I told him I have plans, my D will be upset that I won't be able to care for her if I go away. he will have to do it and she doesn't want him to. She understands our situation, but I feel guilty not helping her out. I know I shouldn't.

Then I think why not do 180 unexpected and be friendly and nice. Invite him to dinner or to drive with us for the 2 hour drive to our surf event together instead of 2 separate cars. Just get along like a family again. Maybe he'd miss it.

Probably not ready yet. Time. Patience. and Detatchment.

I agree. STOP the madness. I just drive him further away. Will this ever come back to haunt him?