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I felt similarity in your subject line & I started reading your sitch. Your WAS seems to be acting very similar to mine. Mine keeps showing kindness and dignity where he can but it hurts more when he is kind. I sometimes wish (although deep down I don't) he was colder so it'd be easy for me to detach..

I wondered about H's access to home and the rest of his stuff. I decided I'm not gonna say anything unless he does. Fortunately from the beginning he never came over without asking me first so that was easy. About his stuff - I'm still debating. When he visited me yesterday he did mention he'd have to move the rest of his desk accessories and his old car that's sitting in the garage. I must be still weak because every time he mentions the rest of his stuff, my heart sinks. For some reason I take it as "I'm moving on with my life so I should move every big of me from this house"

He did give me back a parking pass yesterday saying "It looks like you are entertaining people more" I'm actually glad he noticed that because that was one of big things he had with me. How unsocial I was. It sounds like from your thread you were once and are not anymore. Keep working hard to be more social but only mention you are making all these changes if the subject arises. I wouldn't recommend telling him "Look I did this I do this I'm doing this" because actions do speak louder than words..

He just told me yesterday he was concerned that I had to find out about someone he was seeing. I was so sad and depressed like how I was in the beginning of DB-ing. I have been busy GAL-ing so I didn’t feel that sad and depressed for a long time. All I wanted to do yesterday was sleep. But strangely I couldn’t cry that much. I felt so numb. I wonder I couldn’t cry because I’m at a much better place and feel good about myself or was the pain too much that I just couldn’t feel it yesterday. I don’t know. But I did feel so much better when I wrote it out on my thread. Isn’t it weird just writing it out on this forum makes you feel so much better and gain courage.

Good days are coming and you will also have tough days. But remember we are here for you when you need to vent.