Sorry you're having such a tough time. Don't feel so alone, though, because everyone here has experienced the loss and confusion you are feeling. The only thing that differentiates us is the period of time we try to follow our gut (which inevitably tells us to FIGHT!!), inevitably that just will. not. work.
Ironically you're W has spelled out for you exactly what DR and everybody whose been here a while will tell you is the only 'right' course of action: let your actions speak for you.
Listen to your brother, he seems to have a better perspective, probably because he's got some distance from your sitch while you're in it up to your ears!
Focus on yourself and try to keep yourself busy. Your W has her own thinking to do, so in the meantime you give her space by focusing on figuring out who you are and what you really want in life. You've gotta. It's the only thing that works.
Try to be happy and listen, really listen, to what the people here are telling you. You've already been given all the clues you need (by W, brother, and the good folks here). Now go put the puzzle together to find the answer you're looking for.
M41 W42 M 12 T 15 S10, D9, twin Ds 3 1/2 BD 1/2/2013 Living as roommates Working on D agreement w. mediator 5/13
