BRNR, The way I see it is that you have two options: 1) file and get something set up whereby funds are deposited to assist you and your children w/the normal day-to-day activities; or 2) you beg and plead w/him each and every time to get him to deposit money. He's using the money as a control method to bring you to your knees.
My question to you is this...are you willing to go through this each and every month? I don't see his crisis ending any time soon and it could take 5 or more years for him to come through it, if he ever does. There are people out in the real world that have very ugly spousal/child support issues during separation/divorce and many years later, reconcile and go on to have happy lives.
Think with your brain, not your heart...survival has to come first.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
