he said falling off the wagon every day is pressuring and confusing her. He described it like this, "Imagine if she said, let's get back together, then 2 days After said, I changed my mind. The 2 days later said, let's get back together..." you wouldn't believe her after awhile. He said THAT is how she feels about you...on Thursday she sees you validating her feelings and not pushing too too much, then 2 days later right back to pressuring.
^^^LISTEN TO HIM!!!^^^ Backslides happen, but they DO set you back and undo much of your hard work, and if they happen every few days like this then you completely wipe out your progress. He is absolutely right, all your talks are pressure, pressure, pressure. You have got to STOP the pressure. It's a cheeseless tunnel, and you're camped out inside it with a tent, chairs and fire wondering why the cheese doesn't come dancing in. It won't, you're in the wrong tunnel!!
