papa4life...... that's part of the problem.. I wouldn't even know what to say to her.. there's the part of me that wants to say I love you and miss you and miss her touch.. our talks.. my best friends.... And then there what I should actually say to her so that I don't send her running even faster away. I can see she is struggling right now.... she's knows it's wrong and doesn't feel right but she can't stop what she is doing. So I am afraid of me saying anything it will just make it worse. So I agree with what everyone is telling me on here.. it would be counter productive.
You are doing really good with your detaching if you are at that point where you question if you would even take her back. You shouldn't want your old life back with your W.. you should want a new one if/when you and her ever come to that point. As good as I thought my relationship was with my W before the BD....I can see now how it could have been better. We should never stop improving ourselves... no matter what relationship we are in.
I am happy your doing good! keep up the PMA!
M-39 W-41 T-9yrs BD-Dec 2012 “regardless of your choices and the fact that they may have caused me to experience painful emotions, I still love you because I recognize the purpose of our journey.”
