Some days I feel there is real hope not just because I'm a better, different person but also because - perhaps naively - I've always felt that there will always be a pull because of her son.
MMSLP talks about how the LBS has a leg-up on everyone else because they've already attracted the WAS once, so clearly there is something there already- chemical attraction or whatever. And children definitely factor in as well, in fact in DR Michele says there's no such thing as divorce when children are involved because the spouses' lives will be forever intertwined. So I don't think that's a naive thought at all. But as we all know far too well, there is nothing logical about how a WAS thinks or operates.
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Having said that other days I feel there is no hope and wonder if she perhaps really has met her soul mate in the OM.
Soul mate is a hollywood fabrication, there's no such thing. ANY relationship takes work to maintain, whether it be husband-wife, parent-child, worker-coworker, etc. Most WAS's leave without putting much (if any) effort into saving the M. They carry that right into their next R as well. That's why so many second marriages and affairs fail.
