Hit hard still taking another step forward.

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I know you are having a hard time but I like how your w is opening so honestly about her feelings though. I know truth hurts more than lies sometimes but you have to appreciate that she's completely open with you. She didn’t lie about flowers or seeing OM at the gym.

In my own sitch my H just came over yesterday to tell me about OW, which I wrote about on my own thread. I kinda knew about it but I was surprised he came over to tell me. When he was telling me I thought about your sitch. “Man this is how he must have felt when his W first told him about seeing someone” A part of me definitely took it as a betrayal and a part of me took it rather okay.

I left at about 21:00. I was I was leaving she walked up to me. She made a light hearted joke about me taking a long time to open up.
I said jokingly "How do you want to do this" she said "I would like a hug and I will let you peck me on the cheek" I said you can have a hug and I will raise you a 1.5 second kiss on the lips" She said I'm going to count. We hugged for ages, she was well into it. I broke it off, kissed for quite a while then I left.

5 mins later:
W: I like it when we talk.
Me: Me too, I feel like we could talk for hours.
W: You just take a while to warm up.
Me: Something to work on.
W: :-) thumbs up

45 mins later, sends me a pic of her legs in the bath, then another one and another one. I actually pulled the car over to initiate a little. Sent me even more mind blowing pics. They weren't dirty, but very 'Maxim'.

This morning, I asked her something and we got chatting, told me about a squat challenge she is doing, I made a few light hearted jokes about her ass and I got another nice pic.

^^ It made me totally smile. It's so cute about hug and kiss trade.
I gotta be honest though. When I was reading the beginning part of your post it made me nervous that you were pushing too hard. It almost seemed like you were blaming her for not listening to you the other day about the conditions.
Good that you opened up about what was bothering you and she took it well in the end.