((Hugs)). Children are not part of my drama so I can only imagine how difficult it is for you trying to look after them and look after you. AJ and GM have given you some great advice from voices of experience.
So you weren't Mary Poppins this time. Shake it off. Next time you want to defend yourself to the teeth against your Hs view of life ( do not blame you a bit) just maybe remind yourself that you do not want H discussing your R with the kids and neither should you. Your kids are old enough to understand what is going on. They see much more than you realize, you do not need to defend yourself to them. Just be there.
I am sure counselling will help. Take care of you.
