New to this ...

[steveh27]

I'm not sure I'd respond at all....or maybe a "I understand your position. I don't think I'm emotionally ready to have that discussion yet."

BD - I am concerned if I say that she will just say I am delaying or dragging my feet.

These are my feelings that I would like to get across but you will probably not agree ...

This is not an easy decision at all. This weekend was very nice for a couple of reasons. It was important to me to give the kids a nice day and especially you because of what we have been going through also. The second reason is because this is the person I am moving forward, whether it is believed right now or not. This change is not something I have felt before and has affected me at many different levels. Even through this, I have a sense of calmness that has been getting me through somehow and I know its not just temporary, it's life changing. No person would handle this very well, but it's not just about the sessions I've had, yes they have given me tools to change specific things, but my heart is what needed to change and heal. I'm sorry that I hadn't done it earlier, but I dont think I was capable, and it wasn't because of you. I just didn't know what it was that was causing it, I do now. I know your afraid of trusting this, but people are capable of great things, especially when it comes to love and the love of their family.

At first I took what your counsellor said to heart, but the more I thought about it, the more I gave her the benefit of the doubt. I talked to my counsellor about it and she said that was a very strong statement, but it was an assessment of what she only knows in your short time with her, which is fair. I am aware of where things stand right now but I am trying to take this one day at a time. You said you don't want to drag this on and I'm trying to respect that. I also believe you when you say that this is not an easy decision to make. I am concerned though we are moving too fast right now and we are not getting a chance to breathe as alot has happened in a short period of time. I know I'm not ready to make any hard decisions regarding the kids or the situation with the right frame of mind as of yet. There is so much mixed emotions with everything involved, not just for us, but for the rest of the family who don't get a decision. I am not invalidating your feelings but I want to try and give this time to make sure we do this correctly.