Hey kevin, remember the old saying "I love them, but I'm not sure I like them"...LOL. I think that saying has so much truth to it...there was a time when my mom used to say that about me, in my teenage years. That changed though, thank God. This seems to be a pattern that happens almost all the time with WAs. That is why so many people DB even when they think they should just give in...if they did give in too quickly, it goes right back to square one. Keep doing what you are doing now, working out, going out with friends, taking care of son. Try not to fall into that trap again, and when she wants to go to Walmart, think twice. If son needs to go, YOU take him. Hang in there, tough stuff. But you know what does not work. I know it is hard when they start being nice, but for the long haul, you need to change the way you are reacting. Like they say, if in the end things work out, great, and if they don't, you will have worked on yourself and be half-way ready for the world out there.
Your right. Second time this week that I have been to the gym. I havent been in weeks. Its time to go again.. Tonights my off night but I will be there tomorrow night. I do need to change my way of reacting. I am too available to her. If she calls I call right back. Maybe I should wait a while. Buts a dicey sitch. because she could be calling about one of the kids. After last friday night I know it could happen, and I always want to be there for my kids. Maybe I will tak my son to McDonalds tonight, and let him play in the playground.. Run off some steam.. I have been wanting to check out this bar up the srteet maybe I will go there tomorrow night..
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
So here I sit at work wondering what the hell I am doing. Is it doing any good? Am I doing the right things here.
I see positives. Things are better but I want things to move quicker than they are. I want my famiy at home with me.
I think that she is still too hung up on OM to see me in a good light.
So here I sit reflecting on the positives. Pondering if I will ever get my family back. I dont know, sometimes I wonder if I want them back, but then I see them and I know I do..
I feel so bad for my son. He is taking this so hard. Thats probably why he is lashing out.. Crying for help!!..
Its time to stop this shuffling of his life. Its time that he lives with both his parents.. This is total Bullshit..
What a mess I have in my life..
I wonder if she thinks about what is going on?
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
Not much to report today. Spent the evening with W, running errands for me. We had something to take care of after I got off work, so she came over right after I got home. She went back home around 9. We went to her place a couple of times to check on the kids while we were out. Sometimes I think we are gonna make and then sometimes I just dont know. Thats the times I listen to her and what she say's... I have got to stop that. If she didnt want me in her life she wouldnt keep me there. She would stop all contact. She keeps questioning me about things. I noticed the other day that she was checking out my caller id and the numbers on it, Then last night she asked me if I had a friend in Kentucky and who it is since I have some numbers on my caller id from there. Why question things if she doesnt care??? Answer Because she does........But she is really confused about what she wants... I noticed that she is reading relationship books.. Thats a really good sign...
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
I think you have answered your own question here: all you have to do is be yourself, be there and not let her pull you down with her... remain serenely above the fray.
Caring, concerned but not clingy or upset.
Is that a tall order or what?
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
Oh yeah... I have realy learned to detach myself. So she doesnt pull me down.. I can recognize when she does and am able to stear clear of it..
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
Been getting a lot of advice that I need to go out on a date and show my W that I can move on.. Make her really think about whether or not she really loves me.. I dont know what to do.. I see the logc in it, but my heart says that it wil just creat another reason for her not to come back to me..
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
