Suckerpunch down to the wire

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You're not going to like this so take a big breath and then let it go...
I know what is fair, but I also know what I am able to do financially without hindering my own future.
D Court addresses the finances of both parties and will try to strike a balance from what's in the marital pot. Whether or not that hurts your future won't be a factor. Whether of not it hurts your W's future won't be a factor. It's not about the future, it's about the right now.

What's she's asking for now and what she'll actually get may be 2 very different things. You're stressing about things that haven't happened yet, this is a pattern with you.

One more little thing, which if you can control might make a huge difference in your outlook. There is a hint ofmy W wants out of the marriage so everything she did during the marriage is now worthless and I should get whatever I want. Before you jump into defensive mode, just think about this for 24-48 hours. I think we all start out there, there's no shame in it, it's just not the truth.

I doubt that your W woke up one day and thought, "Today begins my plan to screw-over SP!" This has been difficult for her, too. She loves your daughter and knows that life as she's known it is about to change in a very big way. For whatever reason this is the choice your wife felt she had to make. But that doesn't negate the fact that the 2 of you were equal partners for several years. If you now feel that you weren't, this isn't the time to address that.

I know her decision is causing you hurt.

Try not to be one of those hurting people who hurts other people. It's a vicious cycle.