TND - I am not sure if I commented on your thread before, but I see some similarities between our sitches, so I thought I would chime in.
What is that you want at this point...ie, save your marriage or not? You are putting too much time and energy into H. IMHO, you shouldn't have texted him at all, let alone nasty ones. How would you have responded if the shoe was on the other foot?
Something to think about, but I highly suggest for you to start figuring out what you want, and then let that motivate and guide your actions.
BombOctober 2012- OW 11/28/12 -H still denies Separated 11/29/12 Own place 12/12/12 Confessed OW/EA/PA 2/2/13 Oct 2013 - I knew I was done Jan 2014 - Anticipating the rest of my life