If you were such a good wife then why did i stray?

[tiredndrained]

Portia,
Those are the same things I wonder all the time. I was very independent and he claims not affectionate enough. However, with that being said there were things not perfect about him either and I'm sure your H as well. There were things I would have liked to be different. I would have liked him to take me out more, to do more around the house, to help out more with the kids. I got none of those but I didn't seek another relationship or freak out and leave my family bc I didn't get everything I wanted. He could have talked to me, we could have done counseling...something. He chose to wait until he couldn't wait any longer and do something about it without giving me a second thought or our family. Everyone makes their choices.

So, Sat H left to get his car fixed at 10AM. By 11PM I was very angry. called him several times but no answer. I am always dumped on with the kids. I sent him a bunch of nasty texts letting him know I'm done with all of this. He comes in at midnight, wakes me up screaming at me that he hates me, done with me, etc. Calls me a B. Didn't seem to like my texts too much!! Aparently he was shopping all day for Mother's Day and got me a bunch of gifts and flowers and was working on his car. Says he is done and can't wait to move out. When I woke there was two dozen flowers, cards, lots of presents. Should I feel bad? I don't...a year of him staying out all weekend with no contact and the one weekend he actually is doing what he says and buying something for me. I feel a little guilty since he was out shopping for me. Am I wrong?? Maybe I will never have trust in what he says he is doing. He is gone every weekend but suddenly I'm supposed to know he was telling the truth.