Hi Grizz, as an outside party, I can say that I strongly agree with Stander's suggestions. Some parts of your letter are mirroring those newbie mistakes we LBTers all seem to make: taking all the blame, ILY, inadvertently applying pressure. But the stronger parts of the letter are very productive and send the right message.

I don't know if it will accomplish anything -- of course I wish you much success -- but it must have felt great putting it into words.

M41 W42
M 12 T 15
S10, D9, twin Ds 3 1/2
BD 1/2/2013
Living as roommates
Working on D agreement w. mediator 5/13