Like I said the communication is getting better ... awkward a little as we both try to find things to say. About the detaching ... which this is what I struggle sometimes with ... I am doing many good things with giving space, but I have a hard time with just silence or only answering when initiated by W. We both seem to want to have conversations, not anything about R, avoiding anything down that road, but just normal everyday things.
Anyway Fri I decided to let W know Im bringing my S14 to the movies, the girls were at friends houses. The W had made plans to run some errands with her BFF anyway so it worked out. My son wanted to bring a friend so I said sure. Ironically, my sons friend's mom (which they are good friends of ours as well) is a person my W confided in about this whole thing including the EA, she is still upset with her about it and begged her to reconsider . I called to invite the friend, and she answers and asked how I was doing. BTW they had avoided both of us for a couple weeks for obvious reasons. We both cried over the phone which was hard to hear.
Well I was about to mention how nice the weekend was and Mothers Day, because it went really well I thought. Until I just got this text.
"Im sorry, I know ur at work but we didn't really get a chance to talk this weekend. First, I want to thank you for yesterday. It meant a lot to me, and most importantly the kids. I needed to clear my head last night bcse as great as the day was, we both know where things stand. I need you to know that I hv an appt w my attorney on Thursday afternoon. I agree with u that keeping the cost down as much as possible is best. I would appreciate it if you can take the next cpl of days to think abt how you would like to handle everything. I would like to sit with you on Wednesday and hopefully talk abt where u see things going forward and reach an agreement. I need to pay a retainer on Thursday as well. It's $4000 but the more we can agree outside the office, the more we get back. I'm sorry! I know this has been very difficult for you. It has not been an easy decision to make."
Very, very upset right now and dont know how to respond. Need help!!!!!
M: 43 W: 43 Married: 17 Together: 20 BD: 4/8/13 no legal or physical S as of yet 3 kids: S:14 D:13 D:9 W admitted EA: 5/5/13 Mediation started: 6/3/13 W says EA is done: 6/30/13 - still interested in D
