Certain aspects I have been doing for months. Like the not sharing stuff about what is going on for months...
I'm not sure what you mean, above. What stuff are you not sharing and whom are you not sharing it with?
As far as what you did not understand in my previous post: what I was trying to get at is, as you are working on being nice at your coach's recommendation, consider what you do or say, is consistent with that advice.
So for example, snooping is not consistent with GAL, PMA, nor "being nice". Nor would asking for disclosure, nor would requests for your H to work on the M.
As far as being all over the map, it is important for a LBS to stabalize themselves... their emotions... emotional detachment from the sitch (the bad stuff he may say or do). Otherwise your emotional chaos will reflect in how you behave and your H won't see any consistency.
I hope that made sense.
This isn't easy, but it does get better. It sounds like you are making progress and that is awesome. Keep working on it and you will be a DB pro in no time.
