Thanks the 180 really feel good. As for the 180 on the selfishness and Arrogant I have already ready done a big change in that I was very selfish in doing what I want when I want and never cared about her plans or concerns. I always put my wants and needs in front of everyone else’s now I put the wants and needs of my family in front of mine and spending time with my family and being a good father.
Arrogant part of me was I would always make plans and I never made it on time and my wife and kids always had to wait for me to get home and leave, acting like my time and issues are more important than theirs. Now if I make plans I keep them and on time which I never put my company second it was always first now my family is first and the company comes down the list.
The OW I treat her just like one of the guys and I’m not intimate with her I don’t ever want to hurt her and make her feel like she was being used in anyway. I do not put myself in a compromising situation with her.
apology I only had to show her that I owned what I done and yes I understand it seems selfish but I didn’t do it just for me to feel good I did it to let her know I know what I did and to ask for forgiveness I already for gave myself but it did help me feel better knowing she forgave me I’m not going to lie.
Request to enter counseling was strictly so her and I learn to communicate with each other and teach our kids how to communicate and defuse problems or situation as they arise without a blow-up and talk through it. I’m not asking her to counseling to try and R (if this happens great but I’m not expecting that at this time at all) we will always be in a relationship as co-parents and I want this to be a good one. I’m not expecting R at this time I truly want a good relationship with the X if we do not R.
Update Mother’s Day
Our kids called and asked me to come to mommy’s house and help them cook mommy breakfast in bed. So the kids and I made mom a great breakfast and they took it to her in bed, and I left right away. She was very thankful and sent a text thanking me for everything from the gifts from the kids to the breakfast then told me I was more than welcome to join her and the kids for dinner so I picked them up and we all went to dinner as a family and we had a great time.
