kevin, do you remember some time back when this was happening? Your W would not treat you right, then she would be nice and ask for you to take her to Walmart, with you giving in? And now she is telling you to go out and get a date? I don't think this cycle is going to change until you do. Read what wiley has to say on his threads...he has some good advice for those who are going through what you are. She is bouncing back and forth because she doesn't know what she wants, but she DOES know she can have you back at her will. You might have to go back to DBing, I mean REALLY DBing. Don't be so easy, my friend. It doesn't seem to be working, especially when she tells you to cut her loose. Go back and re-read your old threads, learn from it...