W wants to go ahead with telling the kids as early as next week. Does anybody have some experiences to share on how to make this as painless as possible?
I'm hurting a bit today, not because of feelings for W -- I'd say I'm very well detached now and I feel confident about the future -- but more about the breakup of our family. I love these kids so much it hurts and I hate having to do this to them.
W talked briefly about D-related stuff and confirmed that she wants to tell the kids. I listened and validated and agreed to what she's asking for. The only thing I added was that it all seems to be happening so quickly. W said that it probably seems that way to me, but she's had her mind made up for some time. I guess MWD was right about WAW's.
She expressed surprise rhat I was being so calm and asked if it was for the kids. I told her yes I want to make this easy for the kids but Also for myself. I don't know, am I missing an opportunity to let her know that I don't feel the need to proceed so quickly with D? My heart tells me don't keep reminding here. There's really nothing left to say. Still, her noticing my detachment is something new. Not that it's significant, but still she's noticing.
Anyway, Happy Mothers Day to all you magnificent women out there. Make it a great one and let those kids of yours show you how much you mean to them!
M41 W42 M 12 T 15 S10, D9, twin Ds 3 1/2 BD 1/2/2013 Living as roommates Working on D agreement w. mediator 5/13
