KML, thanks for your thoughts. No, the settlement doesn't include all of those things. In fact, the major part that's missing is the community funds that my H hid and used to start a whole new life including furnishing an apartment, dating, etc. He also claims that he doesn't have to pay me a large part of his income, which is false. As for the house, I cashed out a large part of my retirement to buy our home. I also have paid the mortgage and maintained it for the last year and a half. As for being house poor, that won't be the case. Rent in my area is actually much higher than what my mortgage will be once refinanced in my name. This is a very sore subject for me as I've had to do without a lot to keep all of the bills current while my H has been hiding money, partying and generally living irresponsibly. If a judge wants to order the house sold, so be it. I won't allow my H to run over me anymore. Sure I want my house. I feel I'm entitled to it. My H doesn't want it. He's just holding it over me to get out of this cheaply. I won't be at his mercy anymore. He got the tax write-off for last year which is more than he should have gotten. That's all I'm giving willingly.
