Slowing to a Crawl

[mizjjd]

Hi Portia!!

Recess!! Sounds like sooo much fun. I was thinking along the lines of needing a "time out" the other day, but "recess" sounds much much better. (Its the MLCers that need time outs, in the corner with funny hats on!)

I wanted to touch on something I have seen in a few posts from you. It seems you wonder if you had been more "traditional" in your R if things would have gone the way they did. I guess we all wonder if we had done X instead of Y, would we still be at the same place.

But, I wonder if your SO would have been interested in you all those years ago if you had presented a "traditional" R/lifestyle to him. It seems that you, and he, offered the other what was wanted when you met, and probably continued to do so for many many years thereafter.

And, its not like SO came to you and said "I've had a change of heart. I now think thus and such." So that you would have had the opportunity to respond and choose to alter your life course - or not. This would have shown signs of someone who had been soul searching, what your SO did shows more "fantasy" searching.

I just don't like to see you beating yourself up for simply being who you are. You strike me as an honest and forthright person, just because you check different boxes on the R checklist doesn't make you "less". Less worthy of love or of respect.

I hear you about the parents.... Mine are both gone. Dad almost 20 years ago, Mom 7. I felt so ... adrift... after Mom died. Being "orphaned", at any age, changes a person. I think in some ways, it is the last step in becoming "grown up".

Have fun at recess Portia! You'll find me at the top of the monkey bars (hanging upside down if I remembered to wear shorts under my dress)