Letting Go & Moving Forward 2

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Quick synopsis:
Been here since last Sept but 1st BD was June '12- "I have feelings for OW (co-worker) & ILYBNILWY"

H mom passed away Aug 2012--both agree this had a BIG impact on where we are today

Nov 2012- H moved out

Feb 2013- "Feelings for OW haven't changed. Wants his financial freedom. No intentions of moving back home."

April 2013 BD- H wants not to be stuck anymore. Feelings remain same for OW--wants to move forward to pursue R w her (EA only since beginning, but clearly wants more). States only way he sees this can happen is to get a D (first time D was mentioned).

2 days later- I went to see 2 different Ls to find out my rights if H should file. (Gave me some relief.)

May 2013- Split finances.

Okay, so interesting convo w H today about summer.

H- "My S texted me this morning encouraging me to start a new tradition w boys this summer & take them on a trip. I was wondering how you would feel about this?"

Me- no response/long pause

H- "I was thinking maybe 3-4 days to a place we have visited several times. I know a week would be too long for you to be w/o boys."

Me- "It would only be fair if you wanted to do this as I am taking them for at least one week long vaca alone. It would be good if you let me know sooner than later when you'd like to do this so I can make plans for myself while they're gone."

H- (half-jokingly) "What would you do-go on a cruise or something? (...reminiscing)...Remember when we were "on a break" when we were dating & you went on a cruise by yourself? I think that was the end of the break up when you got back." said H while smiling and almost laughing.

Me- (half-joking) "Maybe I would. I guess I'd have to think about how I would want to spend my time."

H- "Oh, I thought maybe you'd go to visit your brother & SIL."

Me- "I guess I'd have to think about all the possibilities."

H- silence

NOT reading anything into this...just interesting.

Oh, and his grandmother fell and broke a couple of ribs which he told me. He said he wanted to send her a card & I said I would like to too. He said "Well, we'll just send one together." I said, "OKay."

His M's side of the family (except one aunt) knows nothing of our sitch. Seems like H wants to keep it that way for now.

Again, means NOTHING, but interesting.