I didn't mean NOT to take care of the kids at all or withdraw all support financially. I was thinking more along the lines (if this is what you do) of not giving her money everytime she cries about the lack of it ie: I can't do ________ because the kids need fed,bills need payed etc. Some women do use this ploy excessively...they want to have their freedom and they want you to support them in it financially as well. I wasn't totally aware of how often you got your son or took care of the kids. SOme women use the children to manipulate a sitch too...if you want to be a part of their lives then you have to do it at the whim of the mother. Visitation is on W's terms, babysitting is often requested KNOWING the inconvenience it might cause etc. Personally I find it reprehensible for a woman to use her children this way...it is petty, selfish and vindictive.
I guess what I am trying to say is keep it reasonable and don't make it TOO easy. I know you are worried about making W angry or driving her further a way but there comes a time when you have to take a risk. Just lovingly detatch...don't automatically revert back though the first time W gets angry cause you aren't doing things HER way. Just smile and say "I apologise but I have to work, don't have the money to spare, need the truck myself" or whatever applies
Hugz, Zoo
"If patience is worth anything, it must endure to the end of time. And a living faith will last in the midst of the blackest storm."
- Mahatma Gandhi
