I got busy with my life and took the no-time-to-reply option. I figured I'd already answered him in person.
In the meantime, along came another email.
This time with a major re-write of recent events. It was a real gas-lighter. It worked, I was incensed at his claims that I was not allowing him access to the children, that he was paying for things and doing things for them, that it was my fault that I didn't have a car.
Don't get me wrong, it was all written in the nicest possible fashion.
But it completely turned everything around to make it all my fault.
It ended with a statement that said he would recommence payments of $250 a week effective that day. And closed with a plea to stop legal process and negotiate settlement between us.
Don't know if it's got anything to do with me starting the formal process for CS assessment with the government.
He sounds so out of touch with reality.
This time I'm not sure if i should reply - in order to 'set the record straight' - because the email is obviously written as a document of record to be used at a later date. If i do, it will involve me arguing point by point that he is wrong.
Not DB-ing at all.
I think I will bite the bullet and make an appointment with my L again to get advice on how to proceed.
At least XH is offering to pay CS now and seems to want to keep settlement out of court.
Of course, 2 days after his email - and his statement that he would re-commence payment of CS "effective today" - there has been nothing deposited in my bank account.
He forgot to add "If you do my bidding and answer my email".
He is so tricky and manipulative.
I feel worn out by his games. It's really only the thought of all you guys keeping on keeping on that gives me the strength tho continue.
We can do this - together!
PS, in another development, XH's grandfather (88yrs) is seriously ill in hospital, and his dad (65 and morbidly obese) is having radical excision for oesophagus/stomach cancer tomorrow.
