K - I totally disagree with the whole, let her do it alone thing. I think LOVING detachment is the answer, not cutting her off completely - unless you're ready for that. Refusing ot help her out would prolly only drive her further away - altho you might conside not being so available for babysitting unless she really needs it. Truck for job interviews, yes. Constant going out and leaving kids with you, maybe no. Thaat's my thought, anyway. (((Kevin))) Myrrh
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
