Quote: I think that's one of the problems with being men in our culture. We're supposed to keep everything inside and not show emotion and never admit we're weak and need help. I'm certain this is why men die at an earlier age than women.
Just what I needed reminding of today, thanks!
Kev, you've been getting excellent DBing advice. Several things that seem really important to point out is that you really need to detach (not give up-detach) because you are emotionally reacting to everything she says and does. That's like hooking up your cart to a wild pony and you are getting exhausted. AD's will help a great deal with your ability to detach, by the way .
Secondly, I hear lot's of black and white, either/or thinking. It is easy to get into the mode of desperately wanting to control things when your life feels out of control, but flexibility is important right now.
So you feel that you've given heart-felt apologies and your W is still angry. Well--forgiveness can often be a process. I am still in the process of forgiving my partner, and some days I have to act "as if" on that too. You are not at a stage in peicing where there are going to be any instantaneous results. Take care of yourself right, like everyone is telling you--it's important!
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