I really stepped on it, and am asking for help

[SFC_Swede]

Thanks BF! Technically she only asked once, and I am pretty sure she was gauging how much of a fight I would put up (her XH wouldnt sign and made her wait the entire legal limit until her D was granted), and she wanted to figure how much she needed to budget for an L.

She does accounting, while you might think this would be normal, she hasnt gone to this extreme in the past. As for exerting control? I dont think so. She is just methodically preparing for being on her own again without any help from me.

Like I said, she is sprinting for the finish line and keeping any emotional or physical feelings for me in a cave with a massive boulder at the entrance, i believe so she will be able to follow through this time on her threats. So how do I slow this down without pressuring, being needy, or going back on my word