I know you know, that the thing about you BDing her is that it could bring with it a decision that doesnt include you.
I think BD and ultimatum are not the words I should have used. Let's call it "Acknowledging Reality", because that's really what it is.
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I also think that she is comfortable with the way things are.
She is, and she knows I'm a good deal for her, even if she's not "In Love". This is why I feel a gentle acknowledgement of the reality of my desires and expectations are not likely to cause her to bolt, or make any big decisions "that don't include me". I'm only aiming to plant some seeds, not press for any immediate commitment or resolution.
The longer I hold my feelings in, the greater the chance of me blowing it badly at some point when I can't take it any longer. Better, I think, to choose a good opportunity (like when we're connecting) and make my feelings known in a constructive manner. Follow along and take notes kiddies!!!
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You really are a very special man. I hope and pray that she wakes up soon to realize it.
Thank you so much for this comment, and your continued support and guidance. It truly means a lot to me.
This morning W ran a 10k, and I returned the bug to the dealer. When we both were back home, we talked about her trip with GF, and she gave me a near hour by hour detail of each day. What they did, where they went... it was a very comfortable conversation, with W clearly not holding anything back.
One day they hung out with Pepe (or was it Jose? She couldn't remember) and his buddy for a while.
M: Were they hot? W: (in a "I suppose" Meh kinda manner) Pepe was... they were both young.
Eventually the buddy offended GF somehow and the girls decided to leave.
Wednesday was drinking day, and W ended up passing out. Doesn't remember 5-6 hours. Had to be taken to her room by resort personal. Got sick. Found a small bump on her head. The next day was come home day and she clearly was hung over. No wonder she could care less about any car.
This afternoon we're going out to a barbershop show my Dad is part of. Tomorrow we'll see her Dad. This girl ain't leavin' me. But I need to be more than just friends with my wife.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
