DBing is about being consistent for a period of time long enough for the changes you make in yourself to be real, permanent, and be trusted by the WAS.
I don't think that three weeks is enough time for your changes to be real and so I don't think your H trusts your changes yet, so you aren't seeing any pattern or behaviour change, with him.
Certain aspects I have been doing for months. Like the not sharing stuff about what is going on for months and not initiating calls or texting unless its about his daughter.
Originally Posted By: Kaffe Diem
If you are following the advice of the coach, would snooping, setting boundaries, asking for disclosure, requesting him to work on the M, or similar activities in keeping and consistent with your coaches advice on working on PMA, GAL, and being nice to your H?
If you are all over the map, that's what your H will sense and the results are likely to be more of the same.
I am not sure i understand.
Originally Posted By: Kaffe Diem
How do you plan on proceeding at this time?
I am trying to be more consistent and working on getting a life. I read something that helped me. I can invite him along but if he says no or maybe or something other than yes do not let it change my plans. Today I am going to the movies.
