Yup working on the new me. This grill was a foot-stomp from her since she sent me the link to it. She just doesn't know she'll be getting it this soon.
I would tell her, and let her do it. SHOW her that you are there to SUPPORT her in HER choices, not just run them for her...
Does that make sense ? How simple things can look to another person ???
Control can be as complex as planning every minute of another person's day, or as simple as walking by something that they are cooking, tasting it, and adding Salt without asking them....
It isn't what WE do, it is how it is perceived....
Just something to think about there....
Originally Posted By: RetiringSingle
I've recently been stressing over how because of our relationship repair, it's been putting career plans on hold and making the path uncertain.
While you are busy PLANNING a life after retirement, your life today is passing you by.
And with that, all of your relationships are in limbo, just waiting for you to PLAN.....????
Wow....think about that for a minute, and see how it feels...
Why not live your life, free of planning every minute, and letting your life decide what happens.....
Make LOOSE plans of what you envision, and leave the rest of it up to the Universe to decide...
THAT would be giving up control...
"What" you want, should pale in comparison to "who" , and "where" you want....
How would that be different for you ??
To give that up ???
If you are truly putting her and the Marriage first, then why can't you plan the where, and who, and THEN decide the "what" ?
Have you ever asked her the where ?
Maybe she has ideas for the "what" too ...
One never knows.....
I don't think that I would allow a buddy decide that over my spouse though....
