What has worked: She has taken notice of the 180's and asked why am I doing these things now. She gave me the "Too little, too late" speech. I told her that I have to start somewhere.
GAL is in its infancy stage and I am working on that. I have let my individual life go for the sake of family for so long. I go out with the guys and girls from work more than I have done in quite some time but that only amounts to several times so far. Finances have been tight so thats my excuse for not having a life, outside my wife and kids. I see now how detrimental that has been on our R, as well as, my well being.
As far as her being in MLC, still not sure. She is 45 years old and is reflecting on where she is now at this stage in her life. She said, when her life is nearing its end, can she look back and say that she is happy with how she lived it".
Last night, at the dinner table, my D4 ask her if she made her appointment today. Apparently D4 heard her talking on the phone to someone about it. I asked what appointment. My S9 ask her what the appt. was about. W said that she was taking care of business. After the kids left the table, I asked her if she had an appt. with an attourney? She said she was not ready to tell me yet. Hmmmmm... Sounds like it to me but that is pure speculation on my part. I then asked her if she was seeing a Marriage Counselor and she said maybe. So I cant tell. Everything she does points to D.
I will continue to work on me and the children and not worry about her. Its is very hard to sit in limbo like this. Internally I am saddened but outwardly just being quiet for half a day. Normally, I act As If everything is fine and I am happily moving forward with our situation. She noticed that I was being quiet this morning and asked why. I told "no reason, just trying to get ready for my 4 day business trip".
