The last few days I've had this gnawing feeling that I need to find a new attorney or at last get another opinion about how to handle my case. I have a bifurcation hearing coming up which is very important. If granted it means that my H can then buy a house with his gf, maybe using community property, without me needing to sign a quit claim deed. In the meantime we will not have a settlement and my house will still be held jointly. If my H remarries then his W will have a claim on my home should he die or D her. This would also be a financial hardship for me since I would then need to pay for my own medical insurance. In my state these motions are usually granted. I would hope that the judge would see exactly what my H is up to and deny it, but I can't take any chances.
In the meantime, I'm concerned that my attorney called the recent settlement offer less than perfect but thought that I should consider it with a few minor tweaks. After I dissected it I found so many self serving clauses that I was shocked that she did advise me to reject it immediately.
Also, my H received a very large bonus over a month ago. I am entitled to a large percentage of it which means that I will finally have some financial security after almost 18 months of scraping to get by and being controlled by my H. He and his attorney know that he has to pay it, but are refusing to until I sign an agreement. I'm sure they think that I will get tired of struggling financially and will cave in just to get the money. Well, I'm not. I don't care if the boys and I live on rice and beans I'm not signing anything that will have serious ramifications later.
It's been almost a week since I received the offer and I haven't talked to my attorney. Apparently she's been in court or meetings all week. I feel completely comfortable with my decision to reject the offer and go to court, but I am starting to feel anxious about my representation.
