Good observation, that's how most people get into their second failed R...."Gee s/he "makes" me feel better, my spouse must have been crazy, I'm really OK and this feels so good!"

All the same stuff that gets people into affairs.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss