I met with Laurie and it was great. A lot of good advice and I do plan on calling back at some point when/if momentum goes back into "our" favor as a couple. We're really at the space giving steps right now and if that momentum changes as in the Mrs. being more open to personal contact from me (right now most is from her to me) then I'd open to DB coaching again.
You mentioned bible verses and DB guidance. Mine came in the shape of a fortune cookie or actually cookies:
1) Mine - "Don't close a door you want back open." 2) Hers - "Happiness is not about what you want but what you have."
She never saw these as this was a dinner with my brother the week the Mrs. asked for a divorce. The second is obviously easy to see. The first time I read mine I was like "you're darn right she doesn't need to shut the door", but I remembered it was mine. This allowed me to let go because I realized all my pleading, begging, anger, whatever was just shutting that door like crazy. The next day I went to church to pray and instead of praying that my wife would realize what she's giving up like normal, I asked that she be free from her pain and what I didn't realize was how much that relieved me!!!!
Been building ever since that day (March 24th to be exact) and I've enjoyed myself, my time with my kids and heck even my time with the Mrs. so much more since then. Like I said before....given in, but not given up....
Me 42, Wife 39; Married 16; Together 17; Kids: D13, S10 Wife asks for Divorce: 03/19/13 Reconcile: 07/07/13 Round 2 Starts: 02/19/17 Apartment Life: 04/21/17 PA Confirmed: 05/23/17
