First off I want to say thanks for serving our country.
She is detached and filing so you can not control what she would do. Let her go but as someone has said don't make the D faster, make her do all the work.
I am a believer that the A must end first before the R improves and absolutely no cake eating while living in the same roof. And once separated you go on your path and she goes hers...open the cage and let her go.
I can't tell how much pursuit you're doing at home, but that has to end. Show her your confidence and get her respect back. Read up on LRT and see how you'd feel about that. Don't initiate any communication but if she does be polite but don't say much make her think what you're thinking...as they say be mysterious.
Just my thoughts sfc...good luck on your journey.
Newman
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.
