DBing European Style, part 2

[Papa4Life]

Hi Stander!

"I certainly wasn't suggesting that you or anyone here should date, that's up to each individual. I was just responding to your question."

Sorry, I didn't mean to imply that you were suggesting that I start dating. I was just expressing how I felt about it for me, in the current sitch. You know I'm a fan, Stander, and I appreciate your feedback and for sharing about your own experiences. "Dude time!"

Hi ForeverYoung and Portia.

"A quick fix is not a long term solution."

This is true (by definition), but I think it misses the point. Let me offer an example based on my experience.

4 months ago, I was in what I thought was a secure M (of course, we had our prolems), and since BD my W has turned from my life partner to someone who wants me to have no part in her life. I am persona non grata and she treats me accordingly.

Now what I miss most of all is not the physical aspect (as some seem to suggest is the main reason anyone would want to date), but rather just having somebody who gives a rip about you as something other than someone to pay half the bills and take the kids off her hands 50% of the time. It sounds harsh but, well, there you have it.

I want to reiterate here that I'm not interested in dating at this time, but I can understand why someone would want to feel "liked" again by a member of the opposite sex. W had however many months to prepare herself for BD, I got a cigarette and a blindfold, so I can understand that desire to connect to someone and allow myself to accept that I'm really not this monster she has made me out to be.