Kevin,

You have been on a rough ride the past couple of days. Time to stop sweating it...it happens, we all go through it at various times and then we tighten our belts and dig in again. It is that crazy thing called LIFE

If life were perfect this BB wouldn't be necessary and a Utopian existence would be the norm...frankly I don't find Utopia a very comforting thought, it would get boring after awhile don't you think?

If you have apologised to your W for the current snafu then it isn't necessary to keep doing it. One thing I have learned is that apologies should be kept short and to the point. No need to apologise and then go into a lengthy explanation about WHY you are apologising...more often then not it sounds to the other person like you are still trying to justify the behaviour that caused the need for the apology in th first place. It drags the whole nasty mess BACK to the front of the other person's mind and stirs things up all over again. Another thing to remember is to OWN the apology...in other words, keep the apology strictly about the behaviour YOU did that was wrong. DON'T say ANYTHING about the other person's actions/words that might have provoked you to behave the way you did. I fell down this particular tunnel this week myself and just kept making things worse...once I recognized what I was doing and made the RIGHT kind of apology H's anger started to dissipate. This took a couple of days but now H is upbeat, smiling and more loving again

Chalk this one up to the loop-the-loop in the rollercoaster...you don't yell for 'em to stop the ride when this occurs at the amusement park. Instead, you brace your feet, throw up your arms and start screaming; knowing there are more hills and thrills ahead

Hugz,
Zoo

"If patience is worth anything, it must endure to the end of time. And a living faith will last in the midst of the blackest storm." - Mahatma Gandhi