Thanks for that post (again) UR. I finally feel like I'm letting my W go and opening the door as much as possible to give her space. It was nice to reread your post because it can be so hard. I wish I would have listened to everyone long ago telling me to do it.
Chris, Yes, totally "normal" WAS behavior so get used to it. I had days where I would get hot/cold/hot/cold in the same day. Just be and relax, you'll drive yourself crazy trying to figure it out and stressing over it.
UR pointed it out already, the dirtiest word in the DB vocabulary is but. It destroys everything said before it and it sets up either an excuse or an Invalidating statement. Try to eliminate that word from your vocabulary. Just hope some of the vets like Cat or Mach don't see you using it, I still have scratch marks from all the buts I used to say.
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