Ok after some good butt chewing by coach holdingon I wont be filing. Not gonna give up.. Gonna fight the good fight.. I just want my family back..
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
Quote: Ok after some good butt chewing by coach holdingon I wont be filing. Not gonna give up.. Gonna fight the good fight.. I just want my family back..
I am very glad to see this post! Guess you needed that butt chewing earlier. But you probably wouldn't have listened to me then.
Take care and have a good day today with your son.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
I have accepted the fact that my marriage is over. I have to move on.. it was along shot that we would get back together... I tried and and failed but in my heart I know I tried so I will never have any regrets.. Except that I wont be in my sons life every minute of every day.. Thats the only regret, and I will carry that one forever..
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
I'm with kewlkitti on this, your moods ARE all over the place. Part of the advice you get here is to detach. This has 2 main purposes. First, you back off and give your wife space so she can think and maybe even miss you. Second, it allows you time and space to calm down, make changes in yourself and get your moods under control.
I know you're hurting, but your wife is too. You can't help her right now in any way except to become a better man. Would you want to be involved with someone who's moods were all over the place, changing from moment to moment? Probably not.
Kevin, take care of yourself. If you aren't taking meds you might check with your doctor and give them a try. They worked for me.
Underdog has a good rule about waiting to say anything when you're emotional. I did learn that in my relationship. If I had a strong emotion good or bad, I waited 24 hours before saying anything to my wife. Usually, the need to tell her anything was gone by that time.
Hang in there and don't give up when you're so down.
I know I am all over the place.. I am just so tired of this roller coaster, I have been on it for over a year and I think its time to get off... She is never gonna want me back. I have said too many hurtful things now to ever get her back.. All I can do is live my life for me and my son.. I am a good man and good looking I wont have any problems finding a woman that will love me, I just wanted the woman I loved. The Mother of my children.. My Wife, but thats a pipe dream... Thanks for all your support.. I needed it, but its time to move on..
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
kevin, I almost wrote to you last week telling you your moods were all over the place too...one minute you are kicking yourself, wanting another chance, the next you are blaming her for everything. kevin, you both hold responsibility in this. It can't be placed 100% on one or the other, so you must stop feeling that way. You did the porn thing a long time ago...time to forgive yourself for that. Is that the worst thing you did? Believe me, it could be much, much worse. There is no doubt you want your family back, I don't blame you. But thrashing back and forth will get you nowhere. Let the dust settle, be patient...start DBing again. And in the end, long term DBing isn't for everyone, it is very difficult and you have to be really motivated. If you can keep it up for a long time, the better chance you have, but you need to take care of yourself in the meantime. Why not just apologize to her for now for what YOU did, but do not start taking all of it and putting on your shoulders. This could be an endless cycle if you aren't careful. If you decide in the end to file or to move on, just be sure you have made the decision when you are on stable ground emotionally (as much as you can be). You two are going to have to meet each other halfway for any reconcilation to take place. I don't know what to say about a possible OM...only you can decide on how you want to handle that one. Personally, I wouldn't throw anything in her face about it, but make it clear that R talks are out of the question until that is resolved. Go dark, and do not bail her out every time something comes up. She needs to feel how it will be on her own.
Your right.... She even called me this morning to borrow my truck to go to the interview.. I let her.. Your right I need to detach... Go dark.. Let her live her life alone. No matter how bad it becomes.. I just dont want to see her struggle..
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
I have apologized to her.. She just has the attitude too little too late. My apologies dont mean a thing to her... they just fall on deaf ears..
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
