1) she said that if we went to therapy with the goal of reconciling and failed.... That I would blame her for not trying.
That ^^^- script. Most say it.
2) and this one hit home when I thought about it! She said, "When I do open up to you and talk, you argue with me. Not yelling, or not listening or saying anything mean, but if I say... I felt like you didn't care for me in this situation... You say "im sorry you feel that way BUT you know I do and here are 5 examples where I did care for you.
And yep, BUT ....... longest short word there is and the most invalidating.
I just need to STFU.
Um, good idea in almost all instances. Just sayin.
Not perfect yet, may never be, but I'm trying...
Nope, nobody is perfect, C, nobody.
You are growing, though, and that is very important.
Just sayin
