Hanging out, down the street

[JustStunned]

I appreciate feedback on my thread very much. I don’t anticipate it much anymore. I have been remiss responding to your fine posts. I apologize.

@Gunny I am constantly reminded just how small this world is perhaps we will bump into each other. Fair warning I carry a challenge coin for just such occasions.
Semper Fidelis

@Needgrace I am humbled that anything I post on this board could be considered wisdom. I am very happy if I have contributed. I am just another soul trying to make passage and heal along the way. Thank you for your kind words. I think the collective wisdom of the people on this board benefits us all. It has me.

Hey Val Do we push each other or what? Sometimes, even without intention. I have found things to be grateful for that are resultant from the D. I am just not able to find peace with the manner X chose. I do not have regrets with my actions or mindset and there is peace there.

You’re right it is just a cup of coffee or maybe even less at this point. Someone I have known for several years is deepening our friendship. I have no expectations. I have interest and getting out and about with different people will add confidence. I am taking life as it comes.

@BeingMe I wish I had something for you. I did not initiate these actions. She quit, left and filed in roughly a years time. I understand her support structure was encouraging her to do so.

We had been codependent for many years. What I saw as growth away from this she saw as abandonment. So in a way she thinks I quit. How the onion is peeled really depends upon the point of view of the peeler.

I understand loyalty. Honor, Courage, Commitment are still guiding principles in my world. I follow your thread on MLC loosely. It seems to me you have a decision yet to make. In my experience commitment to a decision to act is often the most difficult part. (((())))

And lastly
I took Thursday and Friday of this week off.

Thursday I put another checkmark on the bucket list doing a tandem jump from 10,000 feet. It was not the adrenaline rush I expected. I think this was because I had complete faith in the equipment and the jumpmaster. I have a better rush when deer hunting or white water rafting and I think this is because I have more control of the outcome. I am considering budgeting for jump school. I have the prerequisite tandem jump checked off and perhaps as I gain control I’ll find the thrill of the sport.

Friday, today I was to take my granddaughter and DIL to the local zoo. DIL looked at the weather forecast and decided the art museum was more attractive. Then this morning one of her pets fell ill and I babysat at the last minute during an emergency trip to the vet. That took most of the day. Semper Gumby.

My granddaughter is a little doll and DIL appreciates the assistance. It is all good.

I happened to be part of a conversation with SIL1 and SIL2 about their parents last week. We agreed the best way to get along with them is to have no expectations. This lead to an epiphany of sorts. I know I should know this from all of you. I was able to personalize it…finally. This has lead to more understanding of X and some of the troubles we shared.