I really stepped on it, and am asking for help

[SFC_Swede]

Thanks SA! PA is a no fault State...so we can file a no contest divorce without the L's involved. Too be honest, she is cold hearted, but fair. Her first H treated her like absolute garbage. He belittled her, beat her, ect. And after it was all over...he got a pretty sweet deal in the D. She didnt kill him on the CS, and eventually dropped the case completely. I think he was paying like $100 a month anyway, so it was no skin off our backs (I wish me 1W treated me like that, that vulture [censored] me dry every promotion).

So I am not too worried about what is in the D papers. Technically, our S is hers and the XH. I have no claim to him because as evil and crappy as he was, he wouldnt let me adopt our S. She ha already stated that if I wanted to stay in his life I could. Finances? If you read my entire manifesto, you would know I am disabled, unemployed (full time), and have little cash coming in. She has been my sugar momma since the Army put me out to pasture. Assets? I cant afford or even want the house. The truck is hers, and I am sure I will get my Jeep. Other household goods will be divided as necessary, but I dont see me leaving with much.

I thought by validating and agreeing with her on the D was art of the process? Am I wrong on that????

Oh! Another revelation. So I told you she is still ILYBNILWY, and totally detached. I cant even hug her without her wincing. Then the D talk earlier. Well, I just found out she just came into $11K lump sum from work. I am not sure what will happen after our talk...but it wouldnt surprise me if she offers me a buy out.