Well I have another update but first I will answer your questions.
I did the apology to help me feel better knowing that she forgave me. I was very specific and detailed and also stated how I thought I might feel if someone treated me like that. I won’t do it again this was one more step for me to move on and GAL, Also to own.
As for the OW it was strictly a friendship and I stated right from the start I DO NOT want a relationship this is someone to talk and hang-out with.(she said no problem I can do that) It went great for a long time but then she wanted more, I told her it can’t be more I still love my wife and that’s not fair to you or me so we stopped spending so much time together one because she was falling in love with me and not pursuing her goals. So before I hurt her I explained and she said thank you for being honest. We still talk at least once a week and something do lunch or dinner and go our own ways.
Trust was never an issue in our marriage, My X is worried that I will return to the other guy whom I understand it has to be shown and not said.
A little history about me in the past I was very selfish and Arrogant, I always did what I wanted when I wanted with no regard to anyone.
So this being said Disney is being pushed back for a while now She stated that it would hurt her more than anything I done in the past 15 yrs. then I need to consider that the old me would of just said O WELL me and they are going to have a great time. But now she has told me it will hurt her so I’m going to sit back and allow for some healing time to happen. If I just go with the kids she will say hay he hasn’t changed a bit I told him it will hurt me and he done it anyways. So I listened and I heard. A few more months will not kill me or the kids.
Update: I received an alert on my cell phone that my X was close on the going over on her minutes for her phone so I asked her to take it out of my name I can’t stand seeing how much she talks to this other guy. She ran right down and took it out of my name.
She thought I was doing out of spite but in fact I don’t need to know who she’s talking to she is my X. So I could not sleep that night so I got up at 3am and sent her an email explaining why I asked her and I was honest and said it too easy for me to see who you are talking to and it’s an invasion of your privacy. I also explained to her that we have always had communication issues from day one, so I asked her to consider going to counseling with me to work on this we are going to always be in some sort of relationship no matter what kind it is co-parents who know. She never responded so she sent me a text about the kids and I answered her and said did you get my email she said no ill go look.
So after her guy friend left that night she sent me a text "I will go to counseling. I don’t look at emails very often so if you send something then let me know so I can look."
this is a step in the right direction. Thank God!!
