NLW, make sure your H is willing to be completely transparent about his financial situation before you agree to settle matters on your own. Before you sign anything have an attorney look over the agreement even if you use a mediation service. I actually went to my H and said that I was willing to settle finances on our own. I went as far as to say that neither of us would win so let's both agree to be transparent about our situation, wants and needs and then let's accommodate each other where we can. I also said I didn't want either of us to walk away feeling like we got screwed by the other. Well, that's when the spew started again. I couldn't believe it. I was as kind as I could have been, but he just couldn't be mature about it. You would think I was the one who left. So, try to be amicable, but be careful.
