M1, Things DID go well. It was a different experience. I swore off TV or checking the computer. I was completely focused on her and the kids' needs. It was rewarding.
You're so right about ME keeping up the momentum. I had left a hidden card for 6 May (the day I got back home) which is Nurse's Day. She hadn't said anything about it. Again, I remind myself of the bamboo tree story and don't get discouraged.
Today I sent a small e-mail to her about today being military spouse appreciation day and I told her that I appreciated her and "just her existence in my life gives me the strength, security and support to do what I do each day." Even though I got her an early Mother's Day gift since it was something that I could only get on the trip up there, I took a close-up photo of the roses in my front yard and made it into a Mother's Day card I'll e-mail her on Sunday.
This week I'll order the tabletop grill she mentioned that she'd like to have for her balcony this summer.
Right now we are reading the same book together(at her request) and I'm enjoying it. It's about clearing clutter through feng shui. We both have a bit of a problem with this.
Goals? Well I can say that the previous 2 goals I set with my IC were reached: 1)I needed a sign that she wasn't ready to give up on us. 2)I can bring out/hang up all the photos of her/us in my house again.
New goals: 1)Continue to show that I can be consistent in my new behavior 2)Continue my journey (mind, body, spirit) so that she can begin hers 3)Find better ways to keep communicating 4)Keep actively listening 5)Continue not offering advice, just love her well.
Thanks for checking up on me M1 and Breakdown! I appreciate you too.
